Wednesday, September 30, 2015

A Fellow Porn Blogger Has Outed A Performer And It Bothers Me

Okay this has been eating at me for the past couple days and I can't keep quiet anymore. I posted about my disgust about this issue on both Twitter and Facebook and even talked about it last night when I was on The Dragon's Lair. I'm not going to mention the name of the blogger or his site but I'm pretty sure that anyone who follows porn blogs will know who I'm talking about.
I honestly don't care if this puts more bad blood between him and me, if he tries to trash me on his blog-hey go for it that's just more press for me and I'll even help him make fun of me and choose some really embarrassing pictures so the post will be even funnier and snarkier-but I really feel that I need to address the issue of bloggers using their sites to out performers, to out their families, to out other bloggers who win awards when they don't and who use their sites to embarrass and smear the industry and give all of us who are blogging because we love the industry and are trying to put it in a positive light a bad name. I think it's especially sickening when, right on the front page of this site, the blogger claims "no agenda" when his posts are nothing but agenda filled and anyone who does call him out on his crap is either smeared or blocked from commenting on the site. But I guess this is what you get from someone who's big accomplishment at this past Grabby Awards was the bragging rights that this was the first time he WASN'T kicked out of any of the parties and when all the people involved with the nominating process for awards tell me, "your blog will be nominated but make sure you post a lot and keep posting or else (insert porn bloggers name here) will complain." So basically he's getting nominated so that he won't bitch and moan too much and then when he doesn't get awarded, probably because he slams and insults the awards shows like The Grabbys, he then outs the winners, I still feel sorry for what he did when Queer Me Now one The Grabby, and makes it so that people like Queer Me Now have said that they probably won't attend ANY more award shows.
But here's what really pissed me off.
So retired straight performer, Rocco Reed, who did do some gay for pay porn, and who has kept his private life private is getting married. The paper of his current hometown ran an article on how he proposed to his girlfriend and even included a video of it and interviews with Rocco and his now fiancee. Of course there's no mention of his porn career and this has NOTHING to do with the industry, or gay porn, except that Rocco was once involved in the industry and has no made it pretty clear that he does not want to be outed or involved anymore.
So what was on this blog that made me angry? First a picture of Rocco with a headline that insulted him even using the word "terrible." Okay so if he was terrible and you don't like him why put him on the blog? When you click on the picture it was a link that took you right to the article which mentions Rocco by his full real name, mentions his soon to be wife's full name, where she works and even the name of their hometown. There's nothing about porn, nothing about the industry so why are you outing someone and potentially causing him and his wife and their families embarrassment? Are you that lonely and bitter and self-hating that you have to ruin other people's lives? Knowing this blogger and his history I would say the answer is probably yes. And unfortunately, also knowing this blogger, I'm not surprised he did this.
And this is why a lot of people in the industry hate bloggers and don't take us seriously and don't want anything to do with us. Because they are afraid we are going to out them or embarrass them or use our sites to smear them.
Well I promise you, and anyone who has been interviewed on my site can attest to this, I am not here to out anybody or embarrass anybody. When I interview people I tell them, anything they don't want to answer or don't feel comfortable answering they don't have to. And I never post someone's real name unless I am doing a memorial to them or a spotlight on a performer and then I only do it if the performer has made their real name public either on their own site, their Twitter, or if it comes up on page one of a Google search using only the performer's stage name i.e. it's on IMDB or Wikipedia. But if it's a thing where you have to really search for it or put in a bunch of key words to find it, it's NOT going on my blog. Which is maybe why I've had performers thank me for not outing them when they do mainstream projects or even when I have spotlit them or interviewed them.
I promise all of you in the industry, like I said in my very first post, I am doing this because I love this industry, I have friends in the industry and I am a part of the industry. I want to show people how great most of the people in porn are and that we aren't degenerates or degrading women or turning men into rapists or any of that other propaganda crap.
I just feel that as bloggers we have an opportunity to educate and inform and teach outsiders about our industry and world, and I have even gotten compliments and messages from people outside of porn who have said "wow, I've learned stuff from your blog" or "wow, my views on the industry have changed because of you."
So to anyone who has been embarrassed or hurt or smeared by a porn blogger I apologize and just remember All The Porn That's Fit To Fuck is on your side and will be an advocate for the industry.
And Rocco I am sorry for any pain and embarrassment this asshole has caused you, your wife and your families. He's a loser and a joke in the industry who is desperately trying to hang on to his fifteen minutes.

XOXO
-JOE-

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